Oh Paul, it is sad you cannot be there. I'm sure he would understand. I found it helpful to remember my brother by doing something we both loved. Last February (his birth month) I went out to the places I knew he wanted to visit with his camera and made 45 pictures for his 45 years. I felt close to him then and shed a few tears for my loss. He was a good brother and my only brother. I will always miss him dearly. This February I am going to do the same. Do something that celebrates his life today.